One of the monthly articles in my favorite magazine answers etiquette questions. I always love to read them and wonder what the person did while they waited for the response in the magazine. Did they confront the mother-in-law who criticized their cooking? Did they send the thank-you note to the uncle who only gave an envelope of cash for the wedding? Since I am not shy about addressing things when they bother me, it always fascinates me. I do like to learn the right answer to address these issues, for future reference. I want to “mind my manners” as the old saying goes. One example: should the same fork be used for appetizers AND your salad or should you get a clean one? I still don’t know the answer so if anyone can tell me, great.
Emily Post was the original on answering etiquette questions back in early 1900’s. Then came Abigail Van Buren. “Dear Abby” was a pseudonym for a woman and her daughter. Readers posed question to them about etiquette in a magazine (the name of which escapes me now).
Fast forward to today. We go through a contentious and disheartening election. It was tough whether your candidate won or lost. We all lost. What did we lose most of all? Our manners. What was formally only done by anonymous trolls sitting behind a screen became the norm.
The election became dirty between those who were running. We all stepped in the mud when it came to how we talked to people about the election and “our” candidate. Everyone forgot their manners.